And that alone might actually help explain how women perceive FWB and why they often have no problem acting against their best “evolutionary” interests.
If a woman isn’t romantically interested in a man, and sees him as “just a friend,” it’s much easier for her to indulge in casual sex and do so without any commitment expectations until she finds Mr. And the benefit of such friendship for the man is, well, in the benefits.
According to a study conducted by psychologists at the University of Wisconsin and published on April 25 in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, men report more sexual interest in their female friends than their female friends do in them, and men are also more likely than women to overestimate how romantically interested their friends are in them.
April Bleske-Rechek, lead researcher and a psychologist at the University of Wisconsin, told Live Science that their findings shouldn't be interpreted to mean that men and women can't be friends.
Which brings me to another interesting study on this subject, which could very well be the culprit.
Apparently, when it comes to friendships between men and women — aka, the status before it morphs into friends with benefits — guys are typically more attracted to their female friends than vice versa, reports Live Science.
Going from friends to “friends with benefits” or from online flirting to “f-buddies” seem to be as common a societal trend as the contemporary prevalence of commitment phobia.
I once had to ask an astute friend what the practical difference was between sex buddies and friends with benefits.
Since commitment is a foundation of any relationship, the team assumed the instability of a FWB set up would carry forward. Couples who started out as friends with benefits didn’t necessarily end up worse off than others.
According to a University of Louisville study published in Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, exclusive romances that begin as “friends with benefits,” characterized by sexual encounters with no commitment, are actually no more likely to fail than those than started out as committed relationships.
Couples that started out on the casual note were no more likely to have separated after four months than couples without a casual sex history.
For those of you who just landed in 2012 completely unprepared, here is the concept of “FWB,” as the text message generation calls it: A non-committed, friendly and sexual relationship between two consenting adults who aren’t done looking for the right person romantically or who aren’t ready to commit.
Although critics have called this anything from an “utopist idea” to “an easy way for men to get what they want without having to pay for it,” it turns out that the FWB method isn’t a bad way to begin a long-term relationship.